Of course most people have no idea what chronic depression really is and if you have a conversation with them, they might try to make you feel better.
Being in a major depressive episode can make you not care about anything and see others as in another world that has nothing to do with you.
Every time I raise this issue in the therapist’s office, it gets dismissed. I’m really interested in getting your opinion on this whole complex issue. And not in some sort of vague, quasi-sympathetic way either.
I’ve never seen this issue addressed in a way that’s been helpful to me. I had trouble with anxiety in my early 20’s and depression in my late 20’s, so I know what it’s like to attempt to function with that black cloud hanging over your head at all times.
Some will work in an office even though they hate commuting and being around people.
Some will work from home, even though they are extroverts. It’s perfectly fair for you to not want to date a man who can’t walk if you can find a man who can walk.
They live in a town where all the factories have been shut down. And it’s perfectly fair for a man to choose a partner who is not depressed over a partner who is depressed.Some will work for a ton of money doing something that they don’t like.Some will work at something that makes no money because they love it.The only response I’ve ever gotten was the clichéd “You need to be healthy to start a relationship. My issue was largely situational – subconscious freak-outs about graduating college in 1994 and the shattered dreams of failing to become a Hollywood screenwriter in 2001.Work on yourself first.”Essentially, I’m asking you “How does a depressed person find love in a society that believes that depressed people are not deserving of love? Once I got past the initial trauma and found my footing, the turbulence passed and I’ve been lucky enough to have smooth sailing ever since. You can appreciate all the reasons you have to live and all the blessings in your life but still not feel good about it.