Some Christians take a lot of comfort in the idea that God will do the heavy lifting when it comes to dating.God will tell them if a relationship is right, and God will end it if it's not.The church has reached a difficult crossroads when it comes to pre–marriage romance.We no longer have rituals of courtship and arranged marriage to guide us every step of the way. It's also spawned a whole range of opinions and advice on how to handle dating.There are plenty of them, but let's focus on what I believe are the top five myths that make dating harder for Christian men.Myth #1: "God has one woman picked out for you to marry.Nowhere, however, does it say that God picked out a spunky brunette whom he's waiting to spring on you at the right moment. When it comes to God, I'm pretty careful about saying what he does or doesn't do.But I do know this—if you rely on this idea too much, your dating life will get really confusing.
He says that God joins the relationship between a man and a woman at the point of marriage.
God may, in fact, have a spunky brunette in mind, and he's steering you toward her as you read this.
But the Bible does not promise that God will provide a loving relationship for you while you sit around and do nothing.
" (No, that wasn't a suggestion for you to set up an arranged marriage.) For the Hebrews and the early church, dating wasn't an issue to be addressed in Scripture. When the Bible was written, a person basically had one of three options: remaining single, an amoral life with multiple partners or prostitutes, or an arranged marriage.
There were courtship rituals in place, but nothing that looks like what we consider dating today.