Individual tolerances to holding hands or other touching may vary, so there’s no hard-and-fast rule.
But I would have done better erring on the side of strict conservatism in this area.” Kate, 28, who is married to Luke, wrote: “We didn’t hold hands till almost a year after we started dating.
An important point to note in God’s instruction is that abstinence doesn’t have to be forever. Many of you reading this have already decided that you are going to wait to have sex until you are married. Unfortunately, many young people have engaged in these forms of physical contact and then lost their virginity because their emotions overwhelmed their sense of judgment. ” The time to make decisions about physical contact is before you get in a touchy situation.
Making a decision on the fly with no forethought is a recipe for going too far.
Making a decision on the fly with no forethought is a recipe for going too far. Is it in our best interest to engage in these practices prior to marriage? For those who have adopted the standards of behavior endorsed by today’s entertainment industry, these are stupid questions.
In fact, they are non-questions—meaning they just aren’t asked.
“We liked to sit close to each other, but it was not until a few months before we were engaged that we sat together with his arm around me.
At first, we only did this in my [Kate’s] parents’ home when they were near.
Even though current stats show that the majority of high school students don’t have sex, many movies like this present this scene as the norm for young people before they say “I do.” The way it unfolds is true to life. In Genesis , God explains how and when a sexual union between a man and a woman should take place: “Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and they shall become one flesh” (emphasis added throughout). The Bible doesn’t specifically address these areas.
It all starts with physical contact—touching, hugging and kissing. “One flesh” means to have sexual intercourse (1 Corinthians ) and, according to God’s instructions, this is to take place after a man and woman have been joined together in marriage. It does clearly say that we aren’t to have sex prior to marriage (1 Corinthians , New Revised Standard Version).
Having sex prior to marriage is immoral and, according to God’s Word, we are supposed to “flee sexual immorality” (1 Corinthians ). So we’re supposed to run away from premarital sex and things that could entice us to be immoral. Because abstinence has been described in such negative terms, some educators are now choosing to use the word postponement to describe the process of delaying sex until marriage. Human history shows that these “touchy” activities often lead to lustful desire and sex. Some have asked, “Just how far can a Christian go without sinning?
If you were married already and someone kissed your wife/husband, you’d be pretty mad!
So think ‘fourth dimensionally,’ as Doc Brown would say, and know that this other person is not your mate.” “One can argue that the former two items (holding hands and hugging) can be shared in a more casual and ‘harmless’ way,” said Bill.