What I wish my 13-year-old self would have known and understood back then is that there are YEARS ahead of you for boyfriends and dating. Mamasita A, also known as writer Danity Donnaly, is a mother of three, a wife, daughter, sister, friend, employee, Midwesterner, baker, boo boo kisser, writer, shopper and more!Mamasita A loves looking for deals and making treats with her kiddos, drinking diet coke and reading celebrity gossip.Teen dating is a wild ride, filled with ups and downs for teens and the grown-ups charged with their care.The pace at which teens enter into romantic relationships is just as individual as the teens themselves; while some 14-year-olds are eager to dive into a romantic duo, others dip their toes into dating by spending time in larger groups of peers, and still others stay happily out of the water for some time.So I have posed the question to myself quite often this year. First of all, we must consider the definition of dating: According to the Webster Dictionary: “Dating is a part of the human mating process whereby two people meet socially for companionship, beyond the level of friendship, or with the aim of each assessing the other’s suitability as a partner in an intimate relationship or marriage.It can be a form of courtship consisting of social activities done by the couple.
If you restrict them from doing something, it is going to want them to do whatever it is they are being told not to do more.My thoughts are that group activities are probably the best way for a 13-year-old to get comfortable with herself in the company of boys, and for parents to feel like they’re not discouraging her interest but also not providing access or over-supporting, if you will, her interest in dating.I have no problem inviting a group of kids over to my house, fixing them food, playing music, having board games, Twister, etc. As long as they are all hanging out in the family room or a room where I can walk in and out of, I’m okay with that. These are the best (albeit somewhat confusing) years of your life!And from what I understand, this probably “crush” has been a “crush” since the 5th grade. My 13-year-old self was quite definitely the opposite.If there was an award or certificate that was given out for most boy crazy and emotionally haywire, I would have been in the running for most boy crazy.