Instead of feeling crap about everything you didn’t get that you think you were entitled to – remember who they were and why it’s over. They’re not ready for commitment whether it’s you in the hot seat or The Most Perfect Person in the Universe.
If there’s some good in there, great, but if what you’re mourning is the loss of what happen, don’t ‘waste’ your life by devoting it to taking up pain and rejection solitude as a vocation. Trust me when I say you haven’t discovered anything fabulous about a date that warrants you carrying on like they were the last chance saloon! Whatever it is – it’s not the definition Hi, I’m Natalie!
It also surprised me that they decided to take the perspective of dating being a game, with rules of how to play and how not to play and how to win.
Maybe I'm just inexperienced but I don't think dating should be looked at as a game, where my focus is simply 'what can I get from this person'.
Stop feeling bad about the fact that someone who you (whether you choose to admit it or not) had clear signs that they weren’t capable of being the person you wanted them to be or giving you the relationship you want, didn’t ‘change’ for you.
was inspired by the book Marriable: Taking the Desperate Out of Dating by Hayley and Michael Di Marco.Unfortunately, if you have found yourself in unavailable relationships, especially as a Fallback Girl (or guy), you have some major issues with rejection, either taking it too hard and being derailed by it, or busting a gut to ensure that you don’t experience it, even though you actually .Every day I hear stories of people who are completely overwhelmed by rejection or repeatedly throwing themselves under the same rejection bus because they don’t want to deal with the pain of accepting someone’s choice in another person or their treatment of them.Baggage Reclaim is a guide to learning to live and love with self-esteem by breaking the patterns that stand in your way.Whether it’s figuring out what’s going on in a troubling relationship, understanding you and self-care, or being more assertive, I’m here to help you guide you.