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I listen sympathetically but don't share the conclusions. Mature singles have plenty of great people to choose from; but of course, you have to know where to look.
Be honest about who you are, about how you will be perceived, and about the kind of person who would appreciate you. Don't use a long, involved list of requirements that will narrow your choices down to four people on the entire planet. You can go to boutique online dating sites that select for people who want relationships and are so motivated that they will pay premium prices to find them.
You probably know some of the more popular ones, but there are smaller, targeted sites you might not have known to try.
These give you opportunities to meet people who share your interests.
I recently attended a few Read Dating meetings that my local library system sponsored with Perfect Match.com, a site where I serve as a relationship adviser.